The Break Up!
Mar 18th, 2009 | By Kallieross | Category: Featured Articles, Question of the Week
We have the BEST question for you to answer this week! We want you to be honest now…
What line from Edward’s ‘Break Up Speech’ would have been most hurtful to you? Why?
And, at Kassie’s request we would also like to know the best break up lines you have dealt, or been dealt!
Hey,
my name is Sirley, I’m 22, from Estonia and every time I read New Moon (yes I’ve read it many times) I cry when Edward leaves Bella, because I know he doesn’t want to do it, but he truly believes it’s the best for Bella and she believes he doesn’t love him…its heart breaking…star crossed lovers.
Don’t worry. You’re human—your memory is no more than a sieve. Time heals all wounds for your kind.
Edward Cullen, New Moon, Chapter 3, p.71
This is the line that would absolutely break me. Edward is making Bella feel small and vulnerable and not important. If someone would tell me that I would forget the one I love the most in such a way I know that something would break inside of me. I would feel week and the one thing that would run through my head would be “No, its not happening”, my hand would reach mouth, almost as to suppress the sobs that start slowly at first, when I’d expect him to tell me it was all a joke, and then stronger as the realization of the break up finally catches up with me. At that point I would loose the ability to breathe normally, as though someone is stepping on my windpipe and my eyes would be blinded by tears. Knowing that he considers me as simply a weak human and not eqwual to him…not equal to his feelins, someone that doesnt deserve them, would truly break me.
“It will be as if i’d never existed.”
The worst was that Edward took everything. I remember pining over a breakup and looking through the box of memories stashed stratigecally under my bed, to help me get through it.
Bella had nothing left. She couldn’t pine like a normal girl. He took everything and it was literally like he never existed. He even took his pictures out of the envelope she sent to her mom. He covered all the bases and that made it seem even harsher for some reason.
I went out with someone once who was in California for a work program and only around for a couple of months before returning to Australia were he lived. I had a thing for accents and well, was young and having fun. He really liked me, almost scary liked me, talking future stuff etc. While he was around I lent him a sweatshirt, and some other funny things.
I made him give it all back before he left, and I even refused to give him the picture of me he loved. I said I liked it too and didn’t want to part with one of my favorite sweatshirts.
Really I knew I was done. I didn’t want any long distance thing, or him to have anything of mine to idolize. No box under the bed to go through and remember.
The fact that he was leaving just made it easier.
He sent me one gushing letter which I replied with an all too cruel goodbye.
I was young and gave him the Edward treatment.
Except Edward was freeing something he loved, viciousness is required.
Thankfully I don’t think other peoples hearts taste so good anymore.
“It will be as if i’d never existed.” Edward is the perfect guy and he tells her to think he would never exist. He is the one for Bella, her other half, her sole mate and he is just rejecting all that.
For me the most hurtful part of his speech was when he said “Bella I don’t want you to come.” Because he had before that said “My family and I” and therefor stated that Bella was no longer part of it. I was already crying when I was reading it… But as soon as he said that I started full out sobing… (I was sitting in a class too… Reading secretly… Because I was bored. And everyone was like… “What?”) And then when he said “It will be as if I never existed” That really… I could feel how I would feel. I couldn’t even breath. It was like, her worst nightmare becoming her reality. “I’m afraid that if I look away, you’ll disapear. It’s like your a dream” And then he does. And it is just like a dream.
Breakups are so sad no matter who it is, but when it’s your two main characters that have made you fall in love with being in love it just seems that much worse. The whole chapter is sad and depressing. The line from Edward that made me cry was, “I don’t want you to come with me!” And then when it is followed up with a pathetic whine from Bella saying “You don’t want me?” And then he said “NO!” so nonchalant. That was the saddest most crippling words that he could have said to her. When he say’s, “Of course I will always love you… in a way.” just make the whole scene that much worse. Who hasn’t heard or used that tone in a breakup he just made it that much worse. It makes me want to cry again just re-reading this part. Now I can’t wait to hear your podcast to be cheered back up! You guys are great! Keep up the great work and I hope that you get your call from Summit to head up to Vancouver for your set visit!!!!
The worst line was when Edward said: “Bella, I don”t want you to come with me.”
Bella: “You… don’t… want… me?”
Edward: ” No.”
At that point, I DESPISED Edward. I know, how crazy I was. But I had a good reason, Edward had made all these promises to be with Bella for life; all the times he spent with her, and Bella was sure that he would love her for life because of the commitment. Then he just RIPS yer heart in two. Edward really pissed me off there, and I cried.
Yea I agree with Stephenie, how ould you just call someone your family, and then just x them out of it? Edward had made Bella promises, and he knew that he had changed Bella’s life, had made her happy and stuff, then he just takes it all away. Pathetic. And for some reason, I think that Edward leaving because he wants to protect Bella just doesn’t cut it. It’s not really a great excuse for me. I mean, did he even think to what would happenif he left? did he tihnk about what Bella would feel like, iif she was really better off without him? Oh well, because if you really look at it, Edward leaving just made his and Bella’s relationship even stronger because they realized how much they can’t live without each other.
K, i’m back, had to think about the breakup line i’ve been dealt….ummm well a little back story first:
I used to study at a boarding school in Thailand (I live in estonia) so i came home twice a year…and that year when i was dating this guy Margus, i wasnt supposed to come home for christmas…anyway, my grandma decided to give me tickets for my christmas pressie and i was really excited about telling my boyfriend, when i ran to him and started saying about the tickets he said that we aren’t working out and that he cant be bothered to wait for me.great…so i just looked at him with a dumb look and said surprise, i’m coming home for christmas and then he walked off, resulting in my catching for my breath as i struggled against a panic attack.
Kassie we’re twins because i find myself screaming out “I KNO RITE” constantly when u say ur opinion lolz i get alot of “is she crazy?’ lookz
i think the worse line of the whole break up was the Ill always love you in a way line
its like a smack in the face after loving someone for a year they just say i dont c u that way anymore it hurts just thinking about it
actually it took me 3 times to answer this question i just couldnt
the worst break up line i ever gave was please stop saying i love u and he just kinda asumed the rest
LOVE THE SHOW
I think the line/part that would be most hurtful to me would be when Edward plainly says “No.” (after Bella asks “you dont want me?”), -that combined with the part of looking into his eyes- “His eyes were like topaz–hard and clear and very deep. I felt like I could see into them for miles and miles, yet nowhere in their bottomless depths could I see a contradiction to the word he’s spoken.”
For me, to physically see ‘proof’ that the person you love doesn’t love nor want you in their life….ouch! I think that is the part where my eyes starting to sting and tears started to well up and it would be the most hurtful to me, if it were to happen to me, to see in their eyes that what they are saying is true.
And I really don’t have a “line” I’ve dealt or been dealt, but I’d say that the time where my “boyfriend’s” brother called and told me his brother didn’t think we should “go out” anymore…yea, this was when we were pretty young. Other than that, I’d say I’ve been luckier than Bella in that respect . 🙂
Hey guys! So, the most hurtful line to me is when he looks at her and says this:
“No.”
That totally broke my heart. I mean, all those other lines hurt, but it’s so simple. It’s terrible. Out of all the times he said that he loved her, how he told her he cared, they mean nothing then, and that’s really important. He could’ve said something more complicated when she asked, but he kept it simple. It stung more.
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I thought the part that would hurt worse is the part when he kissed her before he took her out there and how he was distant from her for days and then out of nowhere just says he doesn’t want her. How cruel can you get?!?!
I don’t think there was a single line that was worse than the others. It was as if he used one to open the wound and the others to make it worse. Even thinking about it now, months after I’ve read and reread the books still causes my heart to hurt remembering a past break up for me. However, to imply that her feelings are so trivial and that she will forget him in time is down right spiteful. I know that he thought if he made her angry she wouldn’t hurt as much, but he was downplaying her feelings and no one has the right to question someone else’s feelings.
probably the line where bella asks edward if he cared about her and he said “No.” im sorry edward but that was pretty jerky!
Hi luv the podcast, I reread this part in the book, because to be honest I forgot most of his speech. The phrases that jumped out at me were “I mean my family and myself” each word separate and distinct, “Of course I’ll always love you…….in a way”, “Because I’m….. tired of pretending to be something I’m not,Bella”, “You’re not good for me ,bella”, and his final concluding words ” That’s everything I supose. We won’t bother you again”. To me each of those words are so harsh and unedwardish. If I had to pick one phrase it would be ” Because …………….I’m tired of pretending to be something I’m not ,Bella” because it probably made bella feel that he was more annoyed with his human charade than in love with bella. I almost seems to cantridict all he’s told her in the past, that revolves around you are more inportant to me than everything i had combined.
Also I got my Grandma into the series and it was so funny to hear her rapsodising about all the charcters on the phone. I think she’s Team Edward hahahaah.
I have a few. Three actually.
“Bella, I don’t want you to come with me.”
“Of course, I’ll always love you… in a way. But what happened the other night made me realize that it’s time for a change. Because I’m… tired of pretending to be something I’m not, Bella. I am not human”
“You’re not good for me, Bella.”
The first and third ones because it was like Bella’s worst nightmare Edward not wanting to be with her, For me it was most hurtful because you think of someone saying they dont want you and you arent good enough for them and that is a blow right to the heart. It would make me feel unwanted. I believed Edward when he said it,
The second on because he is telling her he will always love her, but it is obviously not enough for him to stay.It wasnt worth it to him to try to behave in humanly ways for him to be with Bella. That would make a person feel like they were worthless.
And as a teenager all those feeling are amplified about a million times which is probably why Bella just shut down after that. I felt a little heart-broken for Bella when this happened. SM wrote the break up so well. Even I believed Edward.
Of course it is when Bella says ” You … don’t…want me?” I tried out the words confused by the way they sounded placed in that order. “No”. I mean how heart breaking is that? Now for personal experiences…. I don’t have any! I’m a dork, I am a freshman and I still haven’t had a boyfriend, the only really dating experience I have is when a couple losers asked me to the dance( I hate mean to be mean but they were horrible, don’t get me started!) So really new moon is the first break up I had , but hopefully my first won’t be so dramatic. I love the show I have been listening for quite a while now. Thanks for reading this.
I can’t pick just one line, the entire scene is horrible. It’s almost worse reading it the second time around because now we know why he’s leaving. I am 100% Team Edward but this chapter makes me want to hit him again and again. For a guy who is supposed to have 100+ years of muturity he sure pulls off a 17 year old guy move. I wish we could see more of what Alice and the other Cullen’s said, I wonder if Emmett tried to kick his arse? Love, love, love the podcast and website!
Mentioned this on previous message, but I hunted round and I found this on fmylife.com…
“Today, my girlfriend dumped me proclaiming she wanted someone more like her “Edward”. I asked her who Edward was. She held up a copy her “Twilight” book. She was talking about a fictional vampire. FML”
“Bella, I don’t want you to come with me.” He spoke the words slowly and precisley, his cold eyes on my face, watching as I absorbed what he was really saying.
I know this line or something similar was probably the most common, but he was just… leaving. I can think in this moment, all of the memories Bella has of Edward saying he loved her, and he would never stop, and all the time they’ve spent together, for him to jsut say he doesn’t want her would probably be fashing past her. It’s just so heartless! I know Edward was doing it for her, but I wonder why he could ever imagine for one moment that she could just forget about him and fall back in love with somebody else. And wouldn’t he, of all people, be able to predict who, or what, for that matter, she would fall back in love with.
“Because I’m… tired of pretending to be something I’m not, Bella. I am not human.”
This would’ve hurt me SO BAD beacuse (if i was bella) he knwos that i don’t care and the we are destined to be together!!!
*sniff*
i can’t go on!
-sobs- -runs away-
-much love, Bella
Okay so when you guys started talking about New Moon, I had to start reading it again. I have to say, and I’m really embarrassed to say this, but I was too afraid to re-read that part. I finally had to force myself to re-read it, so thanks guys! haha I’m kidding.
So I cry every time I read this. I always put myself as Bella. Ugh, my heart just like is ripped out this whole scene. But I have a lot of points that really get to me. So I’ll say them all, so please bare with me 🙂 (Yikes I’m already shaking!)
1.Bella: When you say we–
Edward: I mean my family and myself.
It’s like the first blow, you know? Like totally having the rug pulled out from under you.
2. Edward: My world is not for you.
To me, it’s like… wait are you saying that I’m not good enough for you anymore? After you told me that I was TOO good for you? I would be so confused because it’s like he was lying to me the whole time.
3. Edward: Bella, I don’t want you to come with me.
Bella: You… don’t… want me?
Edward: No.
I actually realized that he didn’t want me anymore. I was just this little fragile little human; a nobody. And the worst part was, I totally believed him. I mean to me, I was just ordinary and he was the extraordinary person who deserved someone just as extraordinary as he was. (I was BAWLING at this point, like, a waterfall from my eyes.)
4. Edward: You’re not good for me, Bella.
I was so confused and sad and frustrated. I mean, for the past 4 or 5 months you stressed that I should be with YOU, I didn’t realize that I was bad for him.
5. just the lines: He was gone. and Love, life, meaning… over.
They are just so profound and really sends the message that Edward was gone. Forever.
AHH. sorry I’m still shaking… 🙂
But some of the best lines for breaking up is:
“I think it’s better if we were friends.”
-Hmmm. Not possible.
“The guys who falls for you next is lucky.”
-THAT WAS YOU, BUB! I FELL FOR YOU!
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haha sorry that was long, i love the podcast!
-Bee Marie
sorry i meant to say the guy who you fall for next is lucky.
I think the most hurtful line was at two parts the first is where
Edward: “Bella, I dont want you to come with me.
Bella: “You…dont…want…me?”
Edward: “No.”
Then when Edward says, “Of course I will always love you…in a way. But what happened the other night made me realize that its time for a change. Because I’m…tired of pretending to be something that I’m not, Bella. I am not human.”
The whole break-up is completely depressing if that were me I would have broke into a million pieces. I just reread the break-up and I remembered how much I hated that part of the book. Totally one of the worst parts of the whole series. It breaks my heart everytime… ;(
By the way love your podcast look forward to it and you guys are great!!!
i think that the “tired of pretending” line was the worst. It hurts when someone says the pretend word. I say this as a gay woman who’s heard the whole “not really gay” line ugh. As for the worst line I’ve dealt I would have to say when i told my boyfriend of 2 yrs. I just “wasn’t that into him” and he didn’t get the point and kept wanting to know why so i had to follow that horrible line with “because I’m gay.” Though I was a bit more graphic. Also, love the podcast have listened to each episode multiple times. It’s nice to hear you two banter back and forth while i work.
When Edward says “It will be as if I never existed”, THAT would have been most hurtful to me. It would belittle everything that they had experienced together and it would have belittled Bella herself. Did he think so little of her to believe that just because HE had “moved on” she could erase the memories, the promises they had shared? Did he think that her love was such a tempermental thing that his absence or change of heart would have any affect on affect on the depth of her emotion? I would have been outraged, devastated and wondered if he knew me at all.
The best breakup line I’ve ever heard was from my first college boyfriend, who told me I was “too good for him”. (He was very perceptive.) That translates to: “You won’t sleep with me”. (I was waiting for Edward….)
Okay so the whole breakup scene is just heartbreaking
(sniff sniff )
personaly i think the worst part is when edward tells bella he is tierd of being someone he’s not . That broke my heart because it was like saying our whole relationship was a lie !!
and if thing couldn’t get anyworse edward goes and tells bella he doesn’t want her anymore !!!
(full on crying now)
as soon as edward left i refused to read the book for 2 days !! i was so mad at edward i didn’t bring new moon to school to read at reading time in english 😛
but as i am slightley obssesed i had to start reading again , and when i di jacob came and butted right in and started hitting on bella !!! silly mut !!! Kassie i couldn’t agree more with how you feel about jacob 😛
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hey whats up Kallie and Kassie i love your podcast
I thought that this break up was intense i thought Bella would just talk him out of it because she usually gets her way with Edward but he really did leave and this made me cry. i have never been in a relationship but Bella and Edward’s relationship was a very strong one and if it were me who had to go through that kind of break up i would have probaly gone insane or killed myself because that’s all Bella did was being with Edward and there was no world for her with out him anymore. but in Bella’s case she cared about her family to much to hurt them by killing her self even though she was with Jacob she still want to be with Edward and would never get over him cause she had such a strong bond with him and was part of him
Hey kallie and kassie..
well i really cry (snif, snif)in that part of the book… i was felling like Edward was telling..
the parts that really hurt me were..
*“Bella, I don’t want you to come with me.”
-i was really hopping that he wanted Bella to go with her.
*“Don’t worry. You’re human—your memory is no more than a sieve. Time heals all wounds for your kind” “Well, I won’t forget. But my kind… we’re very easily distracted.”
– He didn’t know that when you meet someone you love, it is imposible to forget, she was not going to forget Edward even when she is like 80.
AND MOST IMPORTANT…
*“It will be as if i’d never existed.”
-when he say those words i was thinking that he couldn’t do that, because of the presents, but when she discover that he take away everything that was involved to him.. i cry again 🙁 i didn’t think he was going to do that……
In New Moon i was really sad.. i didn’t want Edward to go.. he was the reason why i read the books.. i mist him.
the good thing was that we came back.. and then everything goes better 🙂
The break up lines that someone told me were…
“It’s not you, it’s me. I think is time to see other people”
I hate him when he said that… he didn’t know what to tell.. so he told me the things he have heard from a movie..
i was so disapointed.. i thought he would say something else.. i know he were going to break up.. but i didn’t know
that he was going to break up with me and with those words.. i was really mad at him.. just because he broke up with me like in a movie. hahaha.
Wait Wait, I know I’m like way late but I got a question I want ya’ll to answer that goes with last week . . . . .sort of. If Jasper freaks out when Bella gets a paper cut, I wonder what all of them do when bella’s on her period. They have good smelling so they should smell it, right? And what do they do at school when there are lots of girls are around? Okay Srry for the lateness I just wanted to know ya’ll’s take on that.
For me, the most horrible line is, “Of course, I will always love you…in a way”. I think that is just aweful to tell somebody after you both have already devoted your selves to each other.
Also, the quote, ” You’re not good for me, Bella”. It came off as , You aren’t good enough for me. Which I think is horrifying. I would have definitely been depressed for months and become friends with werewolves after that!
gracias!
It will be as if I never existed.
I was so angry at Edward right here. Don’t get me wrong, I love him, but how does he think that a broken heart would be better with no tangible proof of existence? My heart broke with Bella’s. Even though I still cry at that part, I think the break up was necessary for their relationship. Love your podcast! You guys are great and thanks for keeping your show clean!
Oh, sorry, I want to add, I definitely get the part when Stephenie writes…October, November etc., how could someone who has lost their true love feel anything other than pain for a few months? We have to also take into consideration she lives in Forks, and never has much going on outside of her world.
APOLOGIES IN ADVANCE… Don’t feel as though you have to read this, its kind of a marathon rant… My fingers are actually quite numb… Its so long because i thinl you have to have the actions in between otherwise its all just words….SORRY
“you promised! in Phoenix, you promised that you would stay – ”
“as long as that was best for you,” he inturrupted to correct me.
“No! this is about my soul, isn’t it?” i shouted furious, the words exploding out of me – somehow it still sounded like a plea. “Carlisle told me about that, and i don’t care, Edward. I don’t care! You can have my soul. I dont want it without you – it’s yours already!”
[The desperation of this really tore me up. I mean by this point i already had tears in my eyes, because could tell what was coming. But the way in which Bella says this, desperately, pleading, trying to find anything at all that might change Edwards mind. I could also see Bella standing there yelling, with tears in her eyes… this whole section actually made my heart ache.]
He took a deep breath and stared, unseeingly, at the ground for a long moment. His mouth twised the tiniest bit. When he finally looked up, his eyes were different, harder – like the liquid gold had frozen solid.
[this is chilling, its so cold (sorry chilling and cold in same sentence my bad) you can feel the emotion of the whole setting but yet you can tell its so hard for Edward to do this. Which devastated me. Seriously by this point i was yelling at the book “why are you doing this! obviously its nearly impossible for you! so why!!!”]
“Bella i don’t want you to come with me”
He spoke the words slowly and precisely, his cold eyes on my face watching as I absorbed what he was really saying. [again the cold eyes]
There was a pause as i repeated the words in my head a few times sifting through them for their real intent.
“you…don’t….want me?” I tried out the words, confused by the way they sounded, placed in that order.
“No”
[ok I know that he was acting on the basis that he thought a ‘clean break’ would be better. But does he really need to be so blunt.]
WOW. sorry for making you read all that its a bit crazy, but that just how I feel… if someone said that to me… well I’d go get me some Jacob Black and chill with the werewolves for a while..LOVE THE PODCAST!
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ok insanely sorry about that… i didnt realise how long it was..
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Hey Girls.
Lovin’ the podcast 🙂
The line that would hurt me most would be:
“Bella..(Georgia…) I don’t love you anymore.”
or the immortal line
“Bella, I dont want you to come with me.”
“You dont want me?”
“No” (I WOULD DIE HERE)
That would tear me apart. I have always been afraid of being alone forever, So I would just be..undescribable in words the pain I would be feeling. I would be worse then Bella. lol. (If you can be worse).
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During the breakup in the book, one of the most hurtful things I think was that Edward was so absent of emotion. He was just cold and it made it more believable that he truly didn’t love her anymore. If I were Bella, it would have hurt me the most when he said, “Bella, I don’t want you to come with me.” She replies, “You…don’t…want me?” It was like a dagger to the heart realizing that the deep love she had for Edward wasn’t shared. This part in the movie will be hard to watch and I think so many people will relate to her pain. I don’t really have any great lines to share with Kassie, but I have been through a breakup or two and whatever they say and however they say it is aweful, especially as in Bella’s case you don’t even see it coming. Love your show, ya’ll are awesome!
i admit that i did quite a bit of crying when i read the part of new moon where edward left Bella , i had to stop reading as i could no longer see the page 😉
but it wasn’t so much the bit in the forrest that i found the most upsetting but the part just before, where Edward totally distanced himself from bella.
he suddenly went cold, stopped staying over at night, didn’t talk to her in te day exept when neccasary – he totally distanced himself from her.
, it was like everything they had been through since the first book just hadn’t happened and i could just see edward sliping away and how bella couldn’t even see it coming. And in the woods where she just watched him walk away from her – and then she had nothing left ” it would be as if i never existed” he took her pictures everything that he had given her untill she fell apart.
But i felt a whole lot better when i fiished new moon!!
p.s lurrrv your podcast, you guys do make me laugh 🙂
i think its sad when he says all of it
the whole thing made me cry
like i was in class and i wasen’t supposed to be reading
and i started crying and i got in trouble haha i
still dojnt have my booh and i got it taken away in december haha
love the podcast always listen to it
TEAM JACOB 4EVER!!!!!!!
i think its sad when he says all of it
the whole thing made me cry
like i was in class and i wasen’t supposed to be reading
and i started crying and i got in trouble haha i
still dojnt have my book and i got it taken away in december haha
love the podcast always listen to it
TEAM JACOB 4EVER!!!!!!!